Self-Care, with a Side of Empanadas

When we talk about self-care in university or work settings, it often feels like a very individualized concept. We hear a lot about going for walks, spending time alone, or indulging in a bubble bath to “unwind.” While I absolutely see the value in those activities — and even partake in them myself — I’ve noticed something missing, especially coming from a culture that values collectivism and community.

In my experience, self-care isn’t just about taking time for yourself in isolation; it’s about the connection we have with those around us and the traditions that ground us. Coming from a culture that has always emphasized the importance of family, community, and shared experiences, self-care for me often looks different than what’s commonly promoted in Western settings.

It’s not just about me-time; it’s about we-time — whether it’s sharing a meal with loved ones, sitting together in silence, or simply reflecting on the teachings passed down through generations. These practices are deeply healing because they connect me to my roots, to my community, and to the strength and resilience that has been woven into our culture for centuries.

Take cooking, for example.

Now, if you know me well, you know that while I have the best snacks (I’m a master of chips, dips, and anything easy to assemble), the whole cooking thing? Not my strong suit. But there's something special about trying to make empanadas with my mom or meatballs with my brother. Despite the fact that I'm usually more of a "supervisor" than an actual chef, it's still a deeply comforting experience. The laughter, the occasional burned edges, and the way we all pitch in — it's less about perfection and more about being together.

Even if the empanadas are more “creative” than traditional, or the meatballs are slightly off in size, the act of making food together connects us to our culture, our shared history, and our ability to create something meaningful — even if that something is a little imperfect. That’s where the healing happens — in the messiness, in the imperfection, and in the collective joy of being present with each other.

Similarly, the spiritual practices I engage in — whether it’s prayer, reflection, or rituals passed down by my ancestors — serve as a powerful reminder that healing isn’t just an individual journey. It’s collective. It’s a shared experience that ties me to the community, my heritage, and the resilience of those who came before me.

In these moments, I realize that self-care is not only about tending to my own needs but also honoring the collective spirit of my culture. These traditions remind me that taking care of myself isn’t selfish — it’s a way to stay strong for others, to show up in my community, and to carry forward the legacy of those who have paved the way.

So, while going for a walk alone can be helpful, I also know that healing happens when we share experiences, uphold our traditions, and lean on the community that nurtures us. Self-care is about honoring the collective spirit, remembering where we come from, and allowing ourselves to rest in the power of our shared strength.

✨ 5 Ways to Practice Collective Self-Care:

1. Cook with loved ones

   It doesn’t have to be fancy — even a simple dish shared with family can reconnect you to your roots.

   
   

2. Lean into your cultural traditions

   Whether it's storytelling, prayer, or rituals, let these practices ground your healing.

   
   

3. Create “we-time”

   Instead of isolating to recharge, try resting with others — co-watching a movie, co-working in silence, or gathering for a meal.

   
   

4. Honor the imperfect moments

   Don’t aim for perfection. Healing often happens in the mess, the laughter, and the shared imperfections.

   
   

5. Reflect on who came before you

   Think of self-care as honoring the resilience of your ancestors. You are part of their legacy — and continuing that is powerful care.

   
   

Ready to explore what healing can look like in your life?

At Rubiks Counselling, we hold space for collective healing — where self-care doesn’t have to look one way. Our therapists understand the importance of community, culture, and connection in your mental health journey.

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Let's start with a conversation — and maybe share a recipe or two.

-Samiyah Zawawi

Co-founder, Registered Psychotherapist